Why Children’s Toys Are More Dangerous Than You Think

Toys have been around for a long time and have always been important to children. More than just providing something trivial to pass time, they are helpful to the child’s development. They serve as educational tools, teaching children social ideals, norms and values and therefore have a strong impact on the child’s perception. This is exactly why children’s toys can cause physical, emotional, psychological, social and environmental problems and should be chosen wisely. In this modern age technology has not only become an important tool but also a popular pastime for people of all ages. Children are negatively affected by this modern way of life in many ways. First of all it can be said that children have become preoccupied by computerized toys, tablets, video games and television. It is a fact, however, that physical activity is essential to a child’s development. Not only does technology cause a lethargic lifestyle but it also adds greatly to the child’s loss of interest in real-life social contact. For many children what used to be “playing with hula hoops in the backyard with friends” is now “simultaneously watching ‘My little pony’ on separate devices”. This visually stimulating but rather dull activity causes an excess of energy in children which leads to distressing side effects like sleep disorders, aggression and depression. On top of all this is it important to remember how much valuable creative energy is being wasted on mindlessly staring at a screen. Most children are born with a natural sense of Continue reading Why Children’s Toys Are More Dangerous Than You Think Continue reading Why Children’s Toys Are More Dangerous Than You Think

Fun Things to Do With Kids While Babysitting

It is quite a task to come up with a never ending list of things to keeping the kids entertained while babysitting. Games can be educative and fun together, though it does require some planning. Keeping them entertained can make a lot of difference between happy kids who enjoy their time with you versus those kids that get totally out of control. Here are tips on some top activities that can keep kids entertained for a few hours. Have a little tea party. Try out recipes that are no-bake like instant pudding. Children can help mix the ingredients, stir and add toppings, or help chop fruit and decorate. Let them help by stirring their own drinks or making their own sandwiches. Or even an indoor ‘picnic’ on a blanket in the middle of the floor in the house. Pop some corn watch a movie together. Give out make believe tickets and collect them at the door and let the movie begin. . . Or even put up a play. Impromptu script can be made up as one goes along. All kids love arts and crafts. It is a sure shot way to keep them occupied and entertained for hours. Make sure that you cover the floor and table with paper. For younger children finger painting is a big hit. Children love to be creative and you will be surprised as to what can be created. Older children can make cards, bookmarks and bead a necklace or bracelet. A face painting Continue reading Fun Things to Do With Kids While Babysitting

Multigenerational Lies and the Effect They Have on Personal Identity

Family secrets and lies that are kept over many generations can have devastating effects on family descendants. It can dramatically affect how they view themselves as a person as well as their ability to interact in an effective way with family, friends and in their personal relationships. When a family member decides to keep a secret, for whatever reason, be it abuse, incest, mental illness or any other issue that has scarred them in some way, they do not realize the effects it can have on themselves and the identities of future generations. Secrets have ways of developing into something way beyond the original problem. The time of life when an individual decides to keep secret a traumatic event can have a direct impact on their future personally and on their descendants. If they were children or teenagers when the event is told to them, or having the event personally happen, can have a direct influence on their personal growth and emotional development. At this time in their lives, they are developing their trust in family members, who will be their support system throughout their lives. Also at this time they may struggle with the ability to develop loving and lasting relationships or even friendships. If the child is very young, the impact of the trauma/secrets/lies can alter how the child’s brain develops. Older children, such as teenagers, may struggle with their entire being. They can lose trust in the relationships, begin to doubt themselves and who they are and Continue reading Multigenerational Lies and the Effect They Have on Personal Identity

The beauty of a child’s innocence

A child’s perspective I’d much rather see the world through the eyes of a child. They have an innocence about them that is genuine and very real. It seems as you grow into adulthood you lose that innocence and once you do it is gone forever. Did you ever see a child’s eyes light up at Christmastime as they stand in line to tell Santa what they want for Christmas? They are full of excitement and quiet anticipation as their whole world revolves around that single moment in time leading up to sitting on Santa’s lap and truly believing in their heart that they were good this year as they try to remember to mention everything they hope that he will leave for them underneath the family Christmas tree. It is what is so wonderful about being a child and it brings a smile to every parent’s face as they reflect on that very special time when they too were a child. Children have no preconceived notions as they are not yet tainted by experience and they say things both honestly and sincerely as they were taught. They don’t ever sugar coat what they say because they have no reason to and they have not adapted that practice yet into their young lives. They are spontaneous and are very perceptive. They are very focused in what they want and there is no question about it. I always remember when I was a child and I would say something to catch Continue reading The beauty of a child’s innocence

Helping a Child To Do Well

Well, it’s time for a new school term. Most parents and grandparents think that it is up to a child to do well in class and on their report cards. They often don’t recognize, however, how their own actions contribute to the child’s progress. Here are some things that you can do to help your child succeed: 1. Encourage and praise effort – I remember hearing about a research project where children were given puzzles beyond their abilities. Some of the children were excited and asked if the researchers would give their mothers the name of the manufacturer so that they could keep trying to solve them at home. The other children gave up and refused to try because the puzzles were too difficult. Upon further examination it was found that the first group had always been encouraged to try and so they were not afraid of failure. In fact, the more that they tried to solve problems, the more they succeeded and the better they felt about themselves. The second group, however, had been told that they were smart, attractive and “special”. They gave up easily thinking that they didn’t want to fail and damage the image that others had of them. 2. Promote accountability and communication – When you are aware of the expectations of the teachers and school staff, you are able to help your child to complete their work and tasks on time. It is not acceptable to say “I didn’t know they were supposed to Continue reading Helping a Child To Do Well

Is It Good To Pay Children With Good Grades?

According to some parents, if children are paid for better grades, they will want to do better in school. They will also realize that working hard and making good choices does have its rewards. They will try to make better grades, in the hopes of earning more money. Children will also learn responsibility and the value of money. It would encourage success and would motivate them to try harder to get good grades. There are a lot of students who just don’t care enough to make an effort to do their best in school but offering money in return for success would give those students a reason to pay attention and to make the effort. Kids would also be smarter because they want money. Kids these days don’t listen to teachers because they believe it is a waste of time. But if they get paid for good grades, they would listen and they would be smarter. They would also have a better chance at having a good job. They would have a better chance of getting a good college education. Aside from that, It would be easier for teachers to teach because the students would know that if they did not listen, they would not get any money. Also, kids would not be tardy because if they missed anything, they may not receive a good grade. However, there are also some parents who said that kids should not be paid for their good grades because as students, they should try Continue reading Is It Good To Pay Children With Good Grades?

Aspergers, Autism and Education

Every child is different from others. Take the time to get to know each children with Aspergers so you understand how they think and operate. Do not put them in a category with your other children or educational failures will occur. Minimize change as much as possible. Allow some transition time before asking a child to do something that is out of their normal routine. Always plan for change as far in advance as possible. You should allow frequent breaks. Children with Aspergers may need to take breaks as a part of their education. Sometimes they have problems with focusing on tasks so allow a break when they need it. Don’t expect eye contact. Their lack of eye contact has nothing to do with disrespect, but it has everything to do with their Aspergers. Use probing questions to make sure they understand what is expected of them instead of using eye contact. Always try to minimize sensory distractions as much as possible. Ticking clocks, tapping pens, crumbling paper, and other things can be a huge distraction for children with Aspergers. It is impossible to control all sensory distractions, but when at all possible, minimize these distractions. Use visual cues when at all possible. Children with Aspergers are usually visual learners and they depend on these cues in their education. They have difficulty processing oral language so hands-on, visual cues are a tremendous help. Following are a few suggestions that can help control kids that show rage or have meltdowns: • Continue reading Aspergers, Autism and Education

3 Common Family Conflicts (EXPERT)

As parents and children interact on a daily basis there is bound to be conflict. When you mix in different generations and parenting styles, it stirs up the works. It is time for compromise in order to have a peaceful home and happy family. There is no such thing as perfect parents or perfect kids (no matter what the Grandma says.) Children don’t always behave the way we would wish and when spouses and in-laws don’t always agree with our parenting style, there is bound to be frustrations, confusion, and uncertainty. Here are just three questions that have come into our parenting blog in the past couple of weeks. Co-Sleeping Some families are committed to sleeping in one bed when a baby needs to nurse frequently or a toddler has trouble going to sleep alone. But what happens when one parent or mother in law objects. Does the spouse resort to sleeping on the sofa in order to get a good night’s rest? If this happens, then it is time to reconsider sleeping arrangements for baby or toddler. Most babies give up the middle-of-the-night nursing at about six months and will sleep through the night if placed in a crib nearby. Toddlers and parents alike will get a more well-rested night’s sleep if the night ritual is firm, kind and consistent. Everyone needs and deserves uninterrupted sleep. What do you think? What has worked for your family? Discipline To end a discipline war, it is necessary to stop the power Continue reading 3 Common Family Conflicts (EXPERT)

How Many People Are You Actually Related To?

Most people think of a Family Tree like a triangle. It starts with you and then branches out downward from there, starting with your children and then your grandchildren, and so on. The lesser looked at side is the other direction. Starting from you and moving up. This makes an upside down triangle. There’s you, then your two parents above you, then each of their two parents above them, and so forth. As you keep moving up a generation the number of ancestors, or the number of people it took to create you, doubles. If you know anything about exponential growth, you will realize this number can get very large very quickly. If you were to go back seven generations (your great-great-great-great-great grandparents) you would have 128 ancestors. This generation would have been in their 20’s in approximately 1800-1825, which means if you traveled to the year 1820 there would be 128 people walking around all making up an equal 1/128th of who you will become in 200 years. Now let’s go back 12 generations. You would have to say “great” 10 times before saying “grandparents”. These people would be in their 20’s, in about the second half of the 1600’s, and again if you traveled to that time, there would be 4,096 people that make up who you are. Now if you continue to double your ancestors, eventually you will surpass the world population, which obviously isn’t possible. This is why there is a widest part of your family Continue reading How Many People Are You Actually Related To?

Can Special Education Help or Harm Our Emotional Disturbed Students?

As a Special Educational teacher I have seen first hand how many parents are devastated to know that they child is a candidate for this program. Special education basically makes education tailored made for the special child. I had the pleasure of working with students who were labeled as being Emotional Disturbed. My students were known for having angry issues which erupted into verbal and physical aggression. These students have so many referrals that they had been kicked out of their districts. I had to come into this classroom with some high expectations and along with not being fearful. Please be clear that in the beginning these kids were cursing and yes even tried to attack but I had to use Mrs. Murray’s magic. It’s an ancient Chinese secret (smile). I have to be honest, I had a terrific male Para who worked closely with me and he and I devised a plan to ensure these kids would be successful. Even though these middle schools kids were rebels and difficult in their perspective districts I still had to believe in them. I had to “capture their hearts”. It was most difficult because these kids came from adverse environments. I had to daily speak works of belief in them. You have to realize, these kids only hear negative and when you hear negative you live and repeat negative. Then I had to make sure my class room was highly structured and engaging. These kids behavior covered up their true learning ability. Continue reading Can Special Education Help or Harm Our Emotional Disturbed Students?